>>10911639When I look at the community there are some people who have been into lolita for 20 years, but it's not common. You have to take into account that it's 2024 and lolita was far less known and accessible 20 years ago. So we might see more people in the future who will wear it for at least 20 years, because lolita became more widely known and more easily accessible.
I know a lot of lolitas who have worn it for 10 to 15 years and are still wearing it, so that's not uncommon.
I don't think anyone enters lolita with the idea that it will be a phase. We do sometimes get comments from people who are sad that it doesn't make them happy anymore, or that they feel they need to give it up for some reason. It's very rare I hear anyone announce "It doesn't interest me anymore", I think those people generally don't make any announcements. They just stop buying new stuff and they sell off their wardrobe.
My advice would be don't date a lolita expecting her to be into it 20 years later. Like with any hobby tastes can change, she might lose interest. Since lolita is a fashion she might not be willing to keep wearing it if she no longer looks a certain way.